As i was walking from store to store in the mall i noticed something. This something wasn’t necessarily scary or out of the ordinary. But the more i think about it, i believe its scary to think that WE don’t think its out of the ordinary. Every day i venture out to public social scenes and i see young girls who don’t look very young at all. Some of these girls go as far as making the statement” i wouldn’t be pretty without makeup and fashionable clothes”. This is absolutely preposterous to me.
In my household as i was growing up, “being natural” was key. From my hair to skin to clothing choices, everything was natural and age appropriate. I wasn’t allowed to wear makeup until about age 17; and I started picking out my own clothes to buy at 12 (under discretion). Now i do admit some of the rules bestowed by my parents were slightly strict but however, i feel that their is a reason for everything. When i see girls today as young as 10 and 11 with a full face of makeup and donning 6 inch heels; its hard not to wonder where are their parents! In my opinion i feel when girls rush to appear much older it takes away from just being a kid. I remember my childhood as a time of being free. and not a time worry about the worlds problems. This makes me feel that kids are missing out, on that care free time where the biggest decision you should make is what is for lunch. I couldn’t imagine being 9 or 10 getting ready for school worrying if my makeup looks good today; or if my outfit will impress the boys in my grade. Now granted times have change and we should adapt to them, but preteens acting and dressing in a matter that is twice their age is not the future.
But who is to blame? The media? Parents? Truthfully everyone and know one at the same time. We could blame the media for over sexual programs. Or over exposure of bad behaved celebrities. We could blame the parents; for not having control of there own children. But this wouldn’t help much. What we can do is instill confidence and inner beauty into young girls. Instead of picking up makeup to impress someone; Teach girls to look in the mirror and say i love me. Teach girls that they are beautiful just the way they are, and don’t need anyone are anything to make them someone or something.
Now am i saying makeup, heels and fashion is bad for young girls? Of course not; as a young girl its important to express yourself and find out what makes you U. But i do feel however it is important to instill great values in young girls so they know they are still beautiful ,smart and important without them.
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